That is a loaded topic.
Especially, if you’re busy professional women trying to do it all.
After all, every woman knows that if she does everything right and is perfect in all ways that she will be deserving of love and get the love she desires.
Being perfect won’t get you loved.
In fact, trying to be perfect makes you irritable. It makes it challenging for different people to be around you. And that makes you one of the most difficult people to love.
So, stop striving for perfection!
Instead, embrace your imperfections.
What Causes Women to Strive for Perfection?
To embrace and love your glorious imperfections you have to first understand what is driving your strive for perfection.
As women, generally speaking, and busy professional women particularly, the number one fear that drives our effort for perfection is the fear of not being good enough.
The judgment from the others of not being good enough as a:
· Business owner.
· Career woman.
The judgment of self as not being good enough as a:
For many women, the fear of not being good enough came from people we loved or looked around who desired us to be, do, or have more. Although seemingly innocent and clothed from the ‘sheep’s clothing’ of good intentions, the wolf at our heels frayed our self-confidence and germinated our distrust of self and others.
For other women, being self-confident was neither modeled nor appreciated. As a result, being ‘perfect’ meant being like someone else they heard praised for their perfection.
Either way, “The condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects,” as defined by the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, is an impossible ideal.
Why Being a Perfectionist Is Bad for You
That’s rest, recovery, simplicity, peace and acceptance.
As active professional women, we need RREP&A.
Without it, we are:
R stands for restless,
R stands for relapse into bad health, feel
E stands for ashamed, become
P stands for panicked and have
A stands for anxiety.
When that happens, we encounter Adrenal Fatigue, hormonal imbalances and become bitchy to other people.
Three Approaches to Embrace Your Beautiful Imperfections
It is the step that cracks open any resistance you have to the next steps.
First, love yourself. You simply must. There is no beating around the bush about it. So, I’ll come straight down the center about this: without self-love, there’s no love. I know. That’s a big one to consume.
Here is how you do it: 1 afternoon, curl up on the sofa with a cup of tea and a pad of paper and your favorite pen. Begin making a list of all of the things you’ve accomplished in your life.
Wow! Right? Look at how much you have accomplished! It’s pretty great!
Now, re-read the list and acknowledge all you have accomplished. Let it sink. The first step to embracing your beautiful imperfections would be first love yourself.
Step 2: Take good care of your love.
What the heck does that mean?
It means to respect and honor your body and emotions. And to take time to cherish and honor the human body and emotions of special people in your life. Your significant other, children and dear friends are to be cherished.
Here’s how to do it: Nourish your body with good food, trust your intuition, speak your truth and honor the truth of others, respect one another’s body, and lovingly support one another in meeting needs in healthy ways.
The heart of this article is to realize that your imperfections are, in reality, your own personal, unique perfections. They are what make you who you are. They are as individual as snowflakes and as valuable as diamonds.
Your imperfections are your lessons. Think of them as guides along your path of achievements.
Here is how you do it: Remember that list you created in Step 1? Look over that list. Pick out five that you’re proud of accomplishing. Write them down on five separate pieces of paper. Then, list the ‘mistakes’ you made along the way that caused you to achieve your accomplishments.
See? Each ‘error’ was only a stepping-stone toward your amazing accomplishments.
Love your imperfections. Embrace them. Honor them for how they have helped you become the self-confident professional girl that you know yourself to be. Loving your perfections is freeing. It gives you permission to take the pressure off yourself and unwind a little. Follow these three steps and adopt your imperfections now. It will free you to soar within a loving inner area.